Love More

It’s not that often you see quotations in the environment so for today’s post I’m going to take advantage of having spotted this sign near Old Street at the end of a long circular walk through Shoreditch, Spitalfields and around Petticoat Lane (where I used to work in the school holidays as a teenager). This is the school where the Kemp brothers of Spandau Ballet went, as well as a range of other famous folk from DJ Trevor Nelson to Ronnie Scott, from scientist Jacob Bronowski (of ‘Ascent of Man’ fame) to architect Richard Seifert (of Centre Point fame).  

Almost all of these have crossed my path in the last few days: Gary Kemp was in the documentary ‘David Bowie: The Final Act’ I saw in the cinema yesterday, Centre Point I walked by a couple of days ago telling my Other Half that my dad is buried in the row in front of Seifert, singer Sarah Jane Morris got me a couple of tickets last week for her show at Ronnie’s next month (we’re developing a doc together). I love this kind of nexus as it is the web of connections that lies at the heart of Creativity.

Martin Luther King Jnr.’s son features in the feature documentary I worked on last year ‘Shoot the People’. That documentary and its protagonist Misan Harriman throw up big questions of love and hate, and how hate is spread. 

Hate is corrosive, poisons the system and rots the soul. The notion of choosing love is an uplifting one.

A digital-first format and a coincidence

As I wrote three days ago I haven’t written here much this year, I’ve been writing on LinkedIn and other places. Here is one of the other places, a piece I wrote in May for Storythings‘ Formats Unpacked, about the third I’ve written for Matt and Hugh’s excellent series.

Formats Unpacked: Meet Cutes LDN

How a format captures a kaleidoscope of love, connection and human interaction

May 13, 2025

This week, doing the unpacking is the returning Adam Gee. Adam is Head of Content at TV indie Doc Hearts (London) and Head of Documentary Campus Masterschool (Berlin). A long-time Commissioning Editor at Channel 4 and the first Com Ed of Originals at Little Dot Studios.

Over to Adam…

 

What’s it called? 

Meet Cutes LDN (ultra-short-form video format). Here’s the Meet Cutes NYC account. Give them both a follow. They are also on TikTok.

What’s the format?

Where the term ‘Meet Cutes’ originates from, I’m not 100% sure, but I believe it’s a contemporary way of describing a long-standing characteristic of romantic fiction and romcom movies – the initial meeting between the two key characters. This format applies it to real life by documenting how couples met in ultra-short videos. They are essentially vox pops, couples stopped on the street and asked three questions (the interviewer remains out of shot and never becomes an identifiable or developed character in the format – different interviewers are used, male and female):

• “Are you two a couple?” – which has become a recognised catchphrase

• “Would you mind telling us the story of how you first met?”

• “X years in, what’s your favourite thing about her/him?” or

  variations like “What’s the secret of X years together?” – the

  interviewer always establishes the length of the relationship

• “What are your names?” marks the end of the video

I love the format because I really believe in ‘the spark’ you can experience on first meeting your other half. I’m an old-school romantic (I experienced it on Trafalgar Street, Brighton, one sunny summer evening).

In essence, the first question is the inciting incident and provides immediate jeopardy as we wait to see their reaction to a relatively intimate question from a stranger. Some are a bit suspicious, some dive straight in, and some even recognise the format. The second prompts an uplifting collection of real-life stories of couples meeting and falling in love. The third is what is called in Features TV ‘the takeaway’ – the knowledge/understanding viewers can derive from the content. And they really are useful insights.

The lovers/partners often point to similar characteristics as the secret to the success of their relationship – their kindness, their humour, not wanting to change one another, their patience/tolerance, grounding nature, inspiration to live life fully, etc.

Meet Cutes was started in 2023 on the not-so-mean streets of New York by three friends – Jeremy Bernstein, Aaron Feinberg & Victor Lee. In just two years the love has spread across the world – after all, what is more universal? The signs of a multiplatform brand are already there, with a book of stories and photos to be launched soon by Hachette.

The original meeting places are as varied as you’d expect – on buses, in shops, at parties, at work, in friends’ homes, in places of worship, in lecture halls, and, of course, on the street. And the contributors are as varied as you’d hope – across ages, genders, nationalities, ethnicities and backgrounds. Some couples have been together for decades, others just months. It’s a rich mix of real-life love, an antidote to the cynicism, fakery, spin and BS overshadowing our culture and media right now.

What’s the magic that makes it special?

The charm of Meet Cutes is its simplicity and (dare I use the A word?) authenticity. Pretty much all the contributors answer the questions straight, seem to enjoy the remembering and reflection, and do their best to give honest, considered and not pat answers.

Its simplicity, as well as being a great asset, is also a vulnerability – the format is extremely easy to copy, a very low barrier to entry. Yet I’ve seen shameless knock-offs from elsewhere in the USA and what’s interesting is that they really lack the charm. It’s difficult to say exactly why other than that the perpetrators must be conscious of their total lack of originality, which in turn undermines their authenticity.

The simplicity is reflected in the production approach – I don’t know what they shoot on but an iPhone with a modest mic and gimbal is more than up to the job. This format is the gold standard for a sustainable series that you can start to make with your own resources and build up over time to attract Other People’s Money in the form of sponsorship, multiplatform brand extension/merchandising, spin-off programmes, etc.

I see this format as a contemporary form of Documentary (which is my heartland) and just as effective at documenting our times as any of the more traditional doc formats. This is especially true when taken as a whole (rather than individual films), it’s a kaleidoscope of love, connection and human interaction today.

Favourite episode

The general quality is very high so it’s hard to go wrong. Pretty much every episode has something of value or charm in it. I like, for example, Tony & Julie who met in a psychiatric unit. She quickly points out they were both working there! It’s also a good example of a second chance story – they were both married when they first met, but had a second bite at the cherry when they both became single again a decade later. You get a real sense of how they complement one another, making their life together far better than their lives would have been individually. Tony says that what he loves about her is that “She’s got a get up and go attitude and she makes me do things I wouldn’t have done otherwise.” That’s cute …and inspirational.

Similar formats

I haven’t come across any apart from poor attempted knock-offs. But every major city is ripe for Meet Cute videos, especially English, Mandarin, Hindi and Spanish-speaking cities.

As well as writing about digital and content stuff, media and tech, creativity and innovation, I write here about happiness and the simple pleasures, including my love of coincidences and synchronicity.

Here is Coincidence No. 288…

I woke up late this morning after listening half awake-half dozing to Radio 4’s Today programme with Guest Editor (the third so far this holiday season), Cate Blanchett. I don’t often listen to Today any more but the Guest Editors is a seasonal favourite treat. After writing this post I’m going to update the Wikipedia article on them as I noticed yesterday it is two years out of date. After messaging my Other Half at the other end of the Northern Line, I checked what kind of Wordle and Connections challenge my brother had set me today (he clearly had a rough morning on that front) and then I somehow meandered to Instagram where a lovely new ep of MeetCutesLdn caught my eye. I forwarded it to my OH as I thought it might appeal. This is what came back: “omg! I watched another couple of this series this morning! … And I don’t even follow them and didn’t know about them!”

Now, although our social media accounts are not and never have been linked, it is possible that the algorithms made the link but I doubt that and my gut feeling says it’s a coincidence with happy undercurrents. 

Update: the Wikipedia follow-up – I actually originated the Wikipedia article on User-Generated Content in the ultimate UGC site’s early days